Year in Review Regrets?

Every January, I conduct a personal year in review. I note the highlights in my gratitude journal, I list my achievements, I review my goals. At the end, I’m left with a glow tinged with a bit of regret. My plan is always to build on my successes. Sometimes, though, it’s easy to allow that tinge of regret to eclipse the glow of success. A commentary on Sunday Morning gave me a wonderful way to reposition or repurpose those regrets and I’m passing them on to you.

Kintsugi

Have you ever felt like a project was as badly shattered as this pot? Hopeless? Kintsugi is the ancient Japanese art of putting a broken object back together with gold.  This restoration preserves the history of the object and changes your relationship to it. Shimode says,

“It’s one beautiful way of living, that you fix your dish by yourself.”

It feels like this also applies to broken processes or plans. What was the initial attraction to the idea? How can you fix whatever didn’t work? How can the information gained shape your next project? I frequently revisit abandoned or failed projects. I’m imagining how much better use I can make of them if I see the flaws as golden threads of learning.

Pentimento

This refers to older drawings or paintings discovered under a more recent one. The term comes from the Italian word for regret. I’d call it revision. I have always had all the drafts of every project I’ve ever done, dated and saved. I keep each edit of my books. These don’t recommend regrets; they represent growth. Write over! Paint over! Cross out at will! This is renewal, not regret, in my mind. It shows development. If you’ve seen an exhibit of drafts of paintings by your favorite artist, you know how much you can learn about their process (and, for me, how much more I respect their genius) as you follow the process of bringing a concept to life. Early versions of projects, as paintings, are a foundation. The version that covers the original represents growth. 

 

Moving Forward

Resist regret. Repair flaws with gold. Rejoice in your opportunities to redo, to improve, to grow. Sketch. Draw. Write. Record. Preserve the evidence. The picture below became a book chapter. I’ve saved it to represent first drafts.

What’s Your Perspective?

My frames for 2018 include repurpose, restore, appreciate, reshape and love. This applies to my personal growth as well as my professional work. Kintsugi and pentimento, as I define them, will be operating principles. What will shape your year? Oh – and if you’d like a little help thinking about this, come on over to Susan R Meyer Your Wise and Wild Life Coach on Facebook or make an appointment for a Quick-start conversation.  

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